The only mistake I made was waiting 6 months to do anything about it.... because I didn't know what to do?! But, I figured it out!!... I got my girlfriend back!!... You can get back with your ex girlfriend too!!
Here's how...
If you could do one thing, right now, to get your ex girlfriend back, this is it.... I want to share with you the single most powerful relationship guide that has helped me and thousands of others around the world... and can help you win back your girlfriend.
I realize that break ups can be difficult, and it can be very difficult to figure out how to fix a broken relationship.
Countless relationships go up in flames
simply because one person (or usually both) do not feel
understood.
We struggle and fight to get the OTHER person
to understand US.
The solution to fixing a broken area in your relationship and keep
it running smoothly is to do the EXACT OPPOSITE of what we
feel like doing.
Which is to first understand the OTHER PERSON.
Even better is to SHOW your understanding.
Here's how to start:
One way to get the ball rolling is using what was taught
to me by a retired cop.
He called it a strip phrase and he said he's used
it successfully in various situations from talking
down suicide attempts to getting some hardened criminals
to give themselves up.
and it simply starts like this...
"Let me see if I understand what you are saying?"
and then paraphrase what you feel is THEIR position.
What invariably happens is the person LISTENS and
then opens up either correcting or agreeing with what
you've paraphrased back.
You keep on this track until you can visibly see that
the OTHER person feels understood.
After that...
Many times... amazing things start to happen.
Once the other feels understood, they try to understand
YOUR position.
Which allows you both to FIND COMMON GROUND where
you can work at a solution together.
Here's a common everyday example:
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Dinner plans that lead to divorce hell?
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Linda: "Why don't we go to that
cozy, new Italian restaurant tonight?"
Tim: "No, I want some Kentucky Fried Chicken tonight."
Linda: " Bluck...We just had fried chicken!"
Tim: "That was last week...I don't want to go
to some fancy pants restaurant."
Linda: "FINE! We never go where I want to
go... or have ANY romance anymore."
Tim: "Oh geez...not this again! Are you never happy?"
(and then this conversation goes to hell in a hand basket.)
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The happy turn around:
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Linda: "Why don't we go to that cozy, new Italian restaurant
tonight?"
Tim: "Cozy and new huh? Sounds like you in the mood for something
new? or are you after some peace and quiet?"
Linda: "Actually...I'm just in the mood to have nice quiet
conversation with you."
Tim: "The conversation sounds really nice, I've been
really stressed about our finances lately and could use
a cozy evening with you...just nervous how much our
dinner would set us back?"
Linda: "Oh, I'm sorry you're stressed...maybe we could eat
at Italian Villa...it's quiet and we know the prices won't break
us."
Tim: "You're amazing...Italian Villa it is! I promise after
our tax return comes in I'll wine you and dine you like you
deserve."
